babyegg:

"Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

littlecatlady:

daeranilen:

daeranilen:

Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, "Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.

Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:

Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.

Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.

Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.

Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”

TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:

  1. You do not respect their rights as an individual.
  2. You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.
  3. You probably haven’t been listening to them.

Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.

this is so fucking important.


hella rad - soundtrack for an excellent adventure through ’80s pop culture

video killed the radio star - the buggles | cars - gary numan | whip it - devo | call me - blondie | don’t you want me - human league | working for the weekend - loverboy | hungry like the wolf - duran duran | billie jean - michael jackson | come on eileen - dexy’s midnight runners | safety dance - men without hats | i melt with you - modern english | eye of the tiger - survivor | let’s dance - david bowie | love is a battlefield - pat benatar | mr. roboto - styx | maniac - michael sembello | 99 luftballons - nena | sweet dreams (are made of this) - eurythmics | footloose - kenny loggins | wake me up before you go go - wham! | take on me - a-ha | manic monday - the bangles | the final countdown - europe | (i just) died in your arms - cutting crew | just like heaven - the cure | don’t you (forget about me) - simple minds | heaven is a place on earth - belinda carlisle | we didn’t start the fire - billy joel

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hella rad - soundtrack for an excellent adventure through ’80s pop culture

video killed the radio star - the buggles | cars - gary numan | whip it - devo | call me - blondie | don’t you want me - human league | working for the weekend - loverboy | hungry like the wolf - duran duran | billie jean - michael jackson | come on eileen - dexy’s midnight runners | safety dance - men without hats | i melt with you - modern english | eye of the tiger - survivor | let’s dance - david bowie | love is a battlefield - pat benatar | mr. roboto - styx | maniac - michael sembello | 99 luftballons - nena | sweet dreams (are made of this) - eurythmics | footloose - kenny loggins | wake me up before you go go - wham! | take on me - a-ha | manic monday - the bangles | the final countdown - europe | (i just) died in your arms - cutting crew | just like heaven - the cure | don’t you (forget about me) - simple minds | heaven is a place on earth - belinda carlisle | we didn’t start the fire - billy joel

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sybawrite:

"Glitoris triptych, panel 2" Julian Baker August 2011 From the triptychs series
For some reason Tumblr removed this image, so here it is again.

sybawrite:

"Glitoris triptych, panel 2"
Julian Baker
August 2011
From the triptychs series

For some reason Tumblr removed this image, so here it is again.

brokenchi:

blackgirlsprettythings:

prominent-afro-history:

"Joshua Beckford learned to read fluently by the time he was two and a half and taught himself to touch-type on a computer before he could write using a pencil.
He can speak Japanese, practices medical surgery on a computer simulator and has completed more than 1,000 maths problems.”

Can we please reblog our children!!!

My heart is swelling!

thepilotjonesexperience:

I’m gna print this off and and give them to cool people

thepilotjonesexperience:

I’m gna print this off and and give them to cool people

il-tenore-regina:

aihsenrad:

Kids be so fucking blunt

LMFAO MY WHOLE SOUL IS HURTING 

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vinonat:

So I went to see Karmin yesterday! It was incredible ugh I want to go back

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